Katie Anne struggles with Art, so we are working on projects at home and I let her help make the choices of colors, fabrics, etc. She demonstrates strength in reading, spelling and music. Her love of reading has helped increase her verbal and language skills. She is appropriate for grade level in all other areas of academic skills. So we continue to work on spatial skills when she shows an interest – building projects over the weekends.
My husband and I are back together now - yea! I am traveling more for my job and Katie Anne is having trouble coping with her problems at home when I am gone. She is excited about going to Science camp, though. She still can get nervous and anxious about stressful situations and withdraws, but now she is back to her normal self by the day’s end, instead of struggling through the remainder of her day as in her early childhood years. She is nervous but excited about starting 6th grade. Overall, her attachment issues are still a continuing theme, but we provide lots of encouragement and praise her when she is able to try a new situation. I am thrilled that she is excited about science camp, instead of being so nervous that she would decide not to go. She often stresses over tests and get nervous the night before, but we study together and tell her to do her best. We try to let her know that the only person she needs to please is herself. Perhaps that will help her overcome her deep need to please others.
Yes, our parenting has changed. We have begun the process of letting her make more of her own decisions. In her pre-school years, I could give Katie Anne a choice between two things - both with an outcome I desired. That no longer works, she desires much more of a say in what happens to her. Since we did establish an authoritative style of parenting in her pre-school years, now we often reason with Katie Anne now and engage her in join decision making as suggested in out text (268, Berk). As Katie Anne has gotten older, we let her make more of the moment by moment decisions of her day (268, Berk). She has asked to earn money this summer to buy a bicycle. Sibling rivalry has increased, so my need to intervene has increased. I separate the girls immediately and allow them to play together again only after they have apologized. The addition of a sibling causes me to focus on more than just Katie Anne.
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It sounds like your girl is getting much more mature in the emotional department. It is big that she can recover from stressful situations and pick up and continue on with her day instead of the rest of the day being shot. Many grownups get into a funk for days on end.
Hi,
It seems really funny how in the beginning all the children were very similar and now yours demonstrates strength in reading, spelling and music, while mine has a hard time with those subjects but is good in art. I believe that with age we will see more and more differences.
I'M SO GLAD YOU GUYS ARE BACK TOGETHER. WE ARE STILL SEPARATED BUT A LOT LESS STRESSD. WE ARE ALSO WORKING ON THE WHOLE DESISION MAKING PROCESS...INTERESTING HUH?
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